1. Take legal advice
Firstly, it is important to get legal advice right at the outset. Any decisions you make at this early stage could have a real impact on both the financial and child arrangements. It is important to be fully armed with the facts before deciding how to proceed!
2. Do not leave the house unless absolutely necessary and seek legal advice before doing so
Whilst it can be extremely difficult to remain in the same house as someone you are divorcing or separating from, it is important not to leave the house until you have sought legal advice. Once you leave it can be very difficult to return and it can have a knock-on impact on both the arrangements for the children and the finances.
Attending mediation is often a good way to get the process started. It allows you and your spouse to start having practical discussions about both the short-term and longer-term arrangements. You can discuss the divorce, finances and arrangements for the children.
4. Protect your assets
If you have any concerns that your spouse may seek to withhold or dispose of joint assets without your consent, you may need to consider whether steps need to be taken to protect them. This will depend on the circumstances so it is important to discuss this with a specialist solicitor.
5. Consider your emotional health
Divorce or separation is difficult for everyone, no matter what the circumstances are, so it can often be helpful to have specialist therapeutic support alongside. This will not only help you manage your emotional health but can also help with navigating the legal process and communicating effectively with your ex-spouse.